Invest In Others

Invest in Others

Have you ever been in a crowd 

but felt surrounded by loneliness?

I think we've all been there 

 at least one time in our lives.

When I was a young girl, 

I had a 'crew' that I always hung out with.

My mother wasn't always supportive

so when we moved for High School,

I lost touch with my friends.

I always thought they had forgotten me,

that I wasn't important enough to remember,

that I wasn't important enough to write to 

(yes, letters were still the norm back then)

that I wasn't important enough to call. 

It wasn't the case, but I didn't know it then.

A young girl's mind can totally

warp the truth.

Who am I kidding? 

Anyone's mind, no matter the age

can warp the truth.

Adults battle being alone.

Adults battle being lonely.

Is there truly a difference?

I agree with this poster - but it took time.

I was thinking about the differences today- 

I have been growing away from

loneliness and finding 

that when I am alone - 

I am still okay.

I am also learning to turn loneliness around:

I am learning how to 

Invest in Others.

Last week I went to an event and 

I found myself withdrawing.

Standing off to the side observing, 

but not interacting.

I knew everyone there - 

and they knew me

but old habits die hard as they say.

Sitting back - quietly observing 

when in reality 

I was choosing 

to be lonely.

I was choosing

to be alone in the crowd.

My friend caught me in the act and called me out.

She and I together interacted with the group.

I learn each time how to do better

I learn about myself - I also learn about others.

It's okay to sit back and LISTEN and observe.

However, 

don't stay there forever.Get out of your comfort zone!!

We all have at least 1 thing in common.

Begin there!

I also learned from my friend something 

I've heard before: 'Be Interested'

With the holidays coming 

how are you investing in others?

Don't invest in others for your own gain

to feel important - to be SEEN.

When you invest in others 

you could gain strong friendships

you could gain confidence in crowds

you could gain a sense of purpose.

It can literally change your life!

It can also change theirs!

*DarleneBl* 

The Struggle for the Positive Outlook

The Struggle for the Positive Outlook

How many times do you struggle?

Do you ever want to quit or just give in?

I know that for some - struggle is a daily, moment by moment situation.

It is either caused by their own choices

or impacted by others choices.

Like my previous post about the 'Ripple Effect' - 

struggles are hard to ignore.

When you are faced with an uphill battle - 

I bet we've all related to this feeling:

 

From a scientific standpoint - 

if we don't keep pushing that boulder uphill and maintain control - 

it will come towards us 

and crush us under it's weight.

How do you find yourself

not giving in to the

 struggle?

How do you not feel like every day is a 

fight?

Have you ever realized that what you focus on 

the most is usually what will happen?  

If you focus on NOT getting a specific task accomplished - 

you will NOT accomplish it.

If you focus on what you DO want to accomplish,

you will likely successfully get it done.

Can the same be applied to your thought process?

Norman Vincent Peale said this:

" Believe you are defeated, believe it long enough, and it is likely to become a fact."

In Norman Vincent Peale's book 

'The Power of Positive Thinking' - 

his concept was that 

we ALL have the power 

to change how we think. 

When we feed positive thoughts in - 

we eventually will look at our situations, 

our trials, our struggles 

in a more positive 

light 

with a positive 

outcome.

The definition of positive  

in this reference:

Full of hope and confidence, or giving cause for hope and confidence; a positive attitude;

Certain and without any doubt.

Doubt?  Can doubt exist in a positive mind?

Yes, I think that it can!

How?

Because when you doubt - 

you question - 

you strive for a deeper answer 

or solution.

You GROW!

Will every day be positive?

Will you be able to be strong 

when you want to quit?

I cannot answer these questions for you!

Only YOU have the POWER

 to be POSITIVE

However, on a lighter note,

I believe that

Dr Suess 

has the answer:

DarleneBl

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