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Stuck in a Moment

I was thinking today that sometimes I find myself 

stuck in a rut. 

It is a phrase I am familiar with.

It is a period of time I am familiar with.

The definition I found for 'stuck in a rut' 

comes from the Cambridge Dictionary

**'too 'fixed' in one particular type of job, 

activity, method, etc., 

and needing to change!**

A rut can be a short or 

long-term distraction during 

specific

seasons of your life. 

Boredom has time to settle in.

Self-Doubt has time to settle in.

Failure to move forward has time

 to become a way of life.

Fear becomes 'familiar'

Think of a rut in a rain soaked, muddy road.  

When you go quickly - you might not get really 'stuck'.

If you went slowly - the wheel would definitely sink faster

and you would be in the rut longer trying to get out.

I saw a post recently that really made me think.

 

This goes back to 

'Stuck in a Moment'

This period of grief will one day fade

This time of doubt could change to courage

This period of being unsure will not last forever

YOU are in control.

'Woe is Me' is way too easy to fall into.

The regular pattern of 'Why Me' 

is familiar territory.

How about a new outlook.

Changing your comfort zone won't happen overnight.

You might even feel 'withdrawal pains' 

when you step forward to change.

Change ... your attitude

Change ... your situation

Change ... your atmosphere

Change ... your process

CHANGE is HARD!

However, something that is worth it

should take work!

It should be 

A metamorphosis of your attitude

A metamorphosis of your situation

A metamorphosis of your atmosphere

A metamorphosis of your process!

Think of the butterfly:

While it is hidden - in darkness 

it is changing.

The metamorphosis of a butterfly

is beautiful!

I was looking at a couple articles for getting out of your rut 

a way to get into a 'moment'

a way to transform and change.

Check them out and I wish you well!

Remember - 

Change is HARD

Change is SO worth it

for YOU!

Success & Motivation

Get out of your Rut Strategies

RemoveTheMask!

Remove the Mask!

I was thinking the other day - 

how many of us feel that we hide behind a mask?

I am not talking about one you might actually wear in person -

It might be a mask of fear -

You are afraid to move forward after great hurt.

It might be a mask of anger -

You are angry with a situation that is out of your control.

It might be a mask of insecurity -

You are insecure in your own skin and you hide from others.

It might be a mask of pride -

You allow your pride to rule how you might deal with someone.

All of these 'masks' can limit your joy

these 'masks' can limit your future 

these 'masks' can limit YOU!

So, you've experienced a great hurt - 

There were possibly some highlights that changed you.

Continuing to allow yourself to revisit the hurt

will not allow you to move forward.

Remove the mask!

You have experienced anger - 

Maybe for whatever reason - your situation was not caused by you.

Continuing to be angry does no damage to the one who inflicted it.

Releasing your anger and allowing lessons to remain - that is the choice!

Remove the mask!

Insecurity is a myth - did you know that?

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best : 

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” 

You must not ALLOW anyone to tear you down!

Remove the mask!

Pride 

Pride always goes before a fall - nearly every time!

You can most definitely be happy about a job well done -

However, if you let it - Pride can also make you seem better than another.

Don't let Pride rule the roost!

Remove the mask!

Just like in a masquerade ball,

Removing the mask reveals the

 TRUE IDENTITY 

of the one who was hidden.

What will your true identity reveal

when you

Remove the mask?

Don't Quit! Keep Writing!

Don't Quit! - Keep Writing!

I attended a writers conference 

April 26th - 29th and it was my first time 

attending anything for writing before.

I did get discouraged early on -

Thankfully I have decided I

Won't Quit Writing!

I don't usually venture far from home - 

especially the comforts of home 

I missed my hubby 

Sleep was like 4 hours each night!

Sorry, I'm also not a Starbucks gal

*when I had to Google what the drinks were -

 that should explain!

It's funny - socializing isn't the norm for a writer.

You attend a conference about and for writers -

You should mingle - 

You should network

You should have others see your work.

That was tough.

Most of the attendees were already authors

most were already on their path to being published

most already knew friends they were seeing again

most were a lot more in their comfort zone!

Since my 'genre' is poetry - 

In a world of book writers - 

I still stood out 

I still didn't socialize comfortably

I had to learn how to start conversations

I realized that I was still unique.

Guess What?

I am okay with that!

I enjoy being unique!

I did learn some key points....

If you want to write - Don't quit - just do it!

Don't let rejection stop you....

STAY and learn why your work was rejected

STAY and listen to how to make it better

STAY and successfully make your work acceptable!

If you have a book idea floating around

Don't keep it in your head - 

you have to write it down!

Find out what great writers are doing right

Follow their lead - do what they do!

If you want to be a great writer...

You have to be a great reader!

Pulitzer prize writers - Only the most distinguished win!

Nobel prize writers - Outstanding work wins!

 Get your work out there for others to see

If you never share what you can do - 

how can an Editor choose you? 

Believe in yourself!

Always believe in yourself!

If you don't believe in yourself..

Who Will !?!?

Writers Block is a LIE!!

 I loved this lesson the most :D 

 I always seem to find a way to get my words out.

It might be on this blog

It might be on a post on Social Media

It definitely happens when I write poetry.

While I was at the conference,

I found that I needed more connections.

Connections are important.

Connections are where you find your readers

Connections are where you find your mentors

Connections are where you find your publishers!

I am thankful for all that I learned...

Especially because

 I Won't QUIT!

I am going to DO IT!

Bloom Where You are Planted

Bloom where you are planted - 

seems easy, right?

I married my sweetheart the day after

our High School graduation.

7 months later, we started a new military life in NM.

Our first Christmas was the beginning of a new life as a Military wife.

I had to learn one thing - 

Bloom where you are planted!

I grew to absolutely love our NM life.

Balloon Festivals - Old town -

Indian Fry Bread sold on the side of the road -

camping trips

in the Jemez Mountains

and SO many more beautiful memories were made.

11 years there -

Also where our son was born

I was thriving and blooming! 

Soon, it was time to uproot our lives and move again.

We were transferred from our home in NM to Hawaii.

*I know, how could Hawaii be bad, right? Bear with me*

I had a 4 year old that I was moving across an ocean

to a new life for four years.

I must admit -

that could also apply to his momma! 

I felt like a scared 4 year old -

my son however was super excited to live by the ocean! 

I had to learn to embrace our new world once again.

While talking to a friend from church -

she wisely told me to

"Bloom where you are planted"

Even my son's school lesson after that meeting was a story

about a flower that was not happy with where it lived.

It really was a shift in my world.

Hawaii was by far the best of all the places we lived.

My son and husband loved the sun and the water -

I watched them while in the shade...

but I embraced the world we now lived in.

Four years later - it was time to move again -

time to embrace another new world.

Hawaii to Texas -

now if there was ever a polar opposite -

that move sure was!

I remember it being so blisteringly hot -

we'd sometimes wait until 10pm to go to the park!

The sunsets - the 4H events - the homeschooling adventure- lifelong friends -

buying our first home -

the lasting memories we'd carry forever.

I was pushed and I was pulled and

not always in a great way...

I again learned to bloom where I was planted!

5 years comes - and we're getting ready to retire.

20 years actually went really fast!

However, Evil crashed into our worlds on  9-11 

Such a terrible way to see lives lost and forever changed!!

Our country needed their military forces strong

so, we waited until they let my hubby retire.

Nearly a year later-

we were headed back home- 

back to where our lives first began.

Rocky Mountains again - yay!!

I knew I'd be okay - but my teenage son?

I wasn't so sure he'd embrace the new life

He wasn't embracing the move at all!

It was a struggle at first -

I focused on making his world okay.

Eventually he soared -

found new friends and HE bloomed.

This was 15 years ago that we came back 'home'

You know Miranda Lambert's song 

'The House that Built Me'?

I think of that often since we came back 'home'

Family and Friends have come and gone

Sometimes you can go home again -

but it's not what it was 20 years later -

or even 35 years later for that matter!!

I was thinking about all this today

If I allow it - discontentment can creep in -

I won't allow it!

If I allow it - disappointment can creep in -

I won't allow it!

If I allow it - fear and doubt can creep in -

I won't allow it!

My husband has worked hard
for the last 36 years to ensure
we were well taken care of -

He does a fabulous job.

Our comfort and joy has always been
his first priority.

When I start speaking discontentment words
and doubting the next step...

I make sure and let him know it's not a 'lack'

it's just a feeling I fight even now.

I know first hand -

Feelings will trip you up EVERY time!

I refuse to let those feelings rule!

 I WILL allow....

Joy

that I still have my wonderful life.

Joy

that I am blessed  when I think of all my life has given me.

Contentment

that I am not alone in any of my adventures.

Contentment

in the knowing that once again....

I WILL

bloom where I am planted!!

Fail Often

Fail Often

Inside each of us, there is an element of fear.

Fear of failing.

Each individual will have a different view of what failure is to them.

Each person has a different perspective of failure in their life.

Mine lately has been fear of criticism.

Not criticism of my life, or my home, or even my husband.

The criticism I speak of is from those who criticize for a living.

I love poetry 

I love to write about how I see the world

I love writing on my blog (although I've not for some time).

I have the awesome privilege of attending a writers conference.

I have read each of the speakers bio's

I've checked into their world of writing.

It's different from mine.

I have second guessed whether I should go to a conference of writers.

Am I a writer?

Am I good enough?

Am I enough?

Self doubt leads to a fear of failing - many times before you ever actually begin.

Self doubt can derail even the most talented writer.

Will someone see the value in what I am passionate about?

Will someone see me, hear me, like me?

Yes, these all go through my mind.

I wonder......do published authors still have those thoughts?

I am eager to experience all that will be offered to me.

I want to soak it all in and meet some new friends.

I am looking forward to learning how to present my work

 I am excited (and yes a bit scared) to meet publishers, authors, writers and more!

As the days dwindle down 

and the moment gets closer that I will leave for a few days to learn..

Learn how to write better

Learn how to talk to others who write

Learn how to present myself to a publisher

I'm ready to let go of the

Fear of Failing.

Speaking of failure -

I saw this great video that Will Smith put out.

It made me think that the Fear of Failing 

isn't such a bad thing.

If you don't fail early - you won't learn what not to do next time.

If you don't fail often - you won't understand the successes in life.

If you don't fail for ward - you will continue not try to do better.

Failure -
It's like the saying....

Practice makes perfect, right?

Failure is a valuable part of living a successful life - 

I'm ready to fail early,

I'm ready to fail often,

I'm ready to fail forward!

Are you?

Hurdles of Life

Hurdles of Life

I was never a great athlete.

When it was time to do hurdles - I cringed!

I was afraid...

 I couldn't do it

 I would fall flat on my face

Everyone was watching me

That I would look stupid

I might actually do okay.

Back then....

I was able to do it

I DID fall flat on my face

Everyone WAS watching me

I definitely looked stupid

I really did do okay!

Now....

Life still seems like those school hurdles.

I still feel like I can't do it

I still fall flat on my face

I still have people watching me

I still have moments that I look stupid

I am still actually doing okay.

The hurdles of life as an adult....

Some days I am able to do it - 

Some days I am not capable of coherent thought!

Some days, it still hurts when I fail and fall flat on my face!

I know that I am Still being watched - 

both by those who want my success

and 

by those who want me to continue to fail

The hurdles of life still makes me feel stupid

 but then I resolve to learn and choose a

smart path - a smarter attitude.

Attitude goes hand in hand with hurdles.

It's not always what is going on that breaks you down

it is mostly how you approach the hurdle.

If you approach a life hurdle 

expecting that you can't - then you won't

expecting that you'll fall flat on your face - you will

expecting that people are waiting for your failure 

you won't expect them to want your success!

If you approach a life hurdle

thinking that whatever you do will be stupid 

you will not try to learn how to act and believe smarter.

If you approach a life hurdle

Expecting that you're going to do okay

You'll slowly see the hurdles of life

melting away.

Yes, there are going to be bad days.

There are going to be very sad and mad days.

There are going to be bruises and bumps along the way.

You can't expect every day to be without a struggle.

What you CAN Do?

Get back up and keep trying!

BELIEVE!!

I love this video!!

https://youtu.be/g-jwWYX7Jlo?si=L9P8Kuc7T9C02K8L