Snake in the grass!
This surprising guest was in our grass yesterday
when hubby was getting in his car for work!
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Of course, at first he thought it was a rattlesnake
because bull snakes tend to mimic
the actions and share similar markings.
Hubby quickly grabbed a broom and relocated
the snake away from his car so he could leave.
It startled him - to say the least.
Seeing this guy made me think about
the term 'snake in the grass'
We have all used the phrase at one time or another.
It's reserved for a shady person
It's used to warn others of your experiences
It's used to remind yourself not to repeat a situation
I have encountered a few snakes myself
literally and figuratively!
At first, the danger is unseen
At first, you are unaware
At first, you think you are safe
At first, they hide their true intentions.
Many times,
our human nature is to 'fix' others
Many times,
we ignore the signs and warnings
Many times,
we think we can change them.
However - in the end
we usually are the ones getting bit.
A 'Snake in the grass'
personality type is someone
who appears friendly and likable
on the surface, but has
hidden agendas and will do anything to get
what they want.
A Narcissist comes to mind.
They usually manipulate and deceive
others to achieve their goals.
They'll often do deals under the table or swindle
you into something you can't get out of.
The funny thing about all this?
You finally wake up and see this for what it is
and suddenly YOU
are made to seem the bad one.
Why?
Because you noticed the pattern
and you put a stop to it!
Well, isn't that just lovely?
Now, YOU need help?
Yes, that is usually how it will go.
That is why I try to avoid this personality.
It is truly a no-win situation!
There was a friendship I once had
It wasn't clear for some time that I was in a cycle
of this person hiding their true self
hiding that they were not who they seemed to be.
How do you get sucked in?
They say all the right things
They do all the right things
They seem to be there and it's a healthy relationship.
But then, suddenly there are cracks
There are signs
Some you see, some you ignore.
When I was out of this situation...
I truly saw it without blinders.
I was taking to a friend yesterday and I realized
that a certain situation is presenting itself
as not necessarily a narcissistic situation
However, it is definitely not healthy for me
So, again, I am walking away.
It is amazing once you cut ties
Once your eyes are truly open
You see things more clearly
You are thankful you walked!
Healthy relationships don't make you feel unseen
Healthy situations don't make you doubt yourself constantly
Healthy situations don't make you dread confrontations
Healthy relationships are IMPORTANT!
Are you dealing with a bad situation?
Are you seeing the narcissistic behavior?
Are you constantly proving yourself and never winning?
Sometimes, you have to just
Walk away!
You can still care about someone
and yes, even pray for them
but they don't always have to stay in your life.
Sometimes taking that walk is
healthiest for you!
Is it easy? NO!
Is it necessary? Probably yes!
So, as we find ourselves walking away,
how do we protect ourselves?
It's not an easy task.
Especially for people who are called empaths!
We want to 'fix'
We want others to be okay
Usually - at the cost of our own health!
So, How do we stay healthy?
Set boundaries!!
Step away for a bit
Truly look at the relationship or situation.
Is it salvageable?
Sometimes,
We just have to let go
And let God.
Rely on wisdom - rely on signs
Rely on truths
Rely on instinct.
Trust God - if that is what works for you.
But most of all....
be careful where you go.
Because,
Snakes will hide and before you see them,
You might get bitten!
©DarleneBl 2024
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